Religious or Non Religious Wedding Ceremony?

Deciding whether to have a religious or non-religious wedding is a personal choice that depends on your beliefs, values, and preferences as a couple. If religious, what religion? You could have to compromise if you are of different religions or beliefs! It may be an option to agree to an interfaith marriage, whereby a professional officiant creates a customized ceremony to honor each of your faiths.

Here are some factors to consider when making this decision:

1.    Personal Beliefs: If you and your partner have strong religious beliefs and wish to incorporate them into your wedding ceremony, a religious wedding may be more appropriate. It can provide a meaningful and spiritual experience that aligns with your values.

2.    Family and Cultural Expectations: Consider the expectations of your families and cultural background. Religious ceremonies may be important to them, so discussing your options and finding a middle ground that respects everyone's wishes can be beneficial.

3.    Inclusivity: If you have guests from diverse religious backgrounds or if you identify as non-religious, a non-religious wedding ceremony can be more inclusive and welcoming for everyone. It allows you to focus on your love and commitment without specific religious traditions.

4.    Flexibility: A non-religious wedding ceremony provides you with more flexibility to personalize the event according to your preferences. You have the freedom to incorporate readings, poems, music, or other elements that hold personal significance to you as a couple.

5.    Officiant Availability: Consider the availability of an officiant who can perform the type of ceremony you desire. Some officiants may specialize in religious ceremonies, while others may be experienced in conducting non-religious or secular ceremonies.

6.    Legal Requirements: Ensure that you are aware of any legal requirements or obligations surrounding your wedding ceremony, such as obtaining a marriage license or following specific guidelines set by your jurisdiction.

Ultimately, the decision whether to have a religious or non-religious wedding should be based on what feels authentic and meaningful to you as a couple. It may be helpful to have open and honest conversations about your beliefs and expectations to ensure that both partners are comfortable with the decision.



When I work with a couple I always ask the question: “Do you want a religious or nonreligious wedding ceremony?" For me, religious is defined by using scripture, mention of God and a dedication prayer. A nonreligious wedding is defined by me as no mention of God and a generic, heartfelt, secular dedication recited before the kiss.